Have you ever felt unworthy of love or happiness? Have you ever felt like a failure? Do you feel you are incapable of reaching your goals? Have you ever had thoughts that you can never heal from your past abuse? These are examples of negative self-talk that leads to self-sabotaging behaviors.

Self-sabotaging behaviors are created by our traumas and how we respond to them. Negative, harmful, and limiting thoughts about yourself lead to destructive emotions that cause you to avoid personal growth, well-being, and healing. 

How do self-sabotaging behaviors form? Through a series of events and responses:

The HEAL Self-Sabotaging Cycle 

Abuse/traumatic event occur
Reaction (thoughts, feelings, actions)
Original coping strategies (to deal with trauma) 
Deep seated fears, insecurities and unresolved trauma form
Internalized into the subconscious 
Triggers created

Sabotaging behaviors form (procrastination, perfectionism, resist change, low self worth, indecision, etc.)
Affect quality of life, increased anxiety, depression, negative self-talk. 

When it comes to self-sabotaging behaviors identifying its origins or trauma event is the first step. Understanding your reactions to the traumatic event and your coping strategies to the trauma help lay the foundation to overcoming them. Identifying the fears and insecurities that developed helps you to do a deep dive into what is happening in your subconscious mind. 
This helps you to understand your triggers and why they formed. Then you can see your self-sabotaging behaviors and how they have affected your life! 

Once you understand how they are formed, you can overcome them!

But I’m not going to lie. It was an uphill battle. So in today’s episode I help you streamline your experience with self-sabotaging behaviors by helping you find a path – quicker – to overcome them and move closer towards the life you deserve. 

In this episode you will learn

What is self-sabotaging behaviors
Examples of self-sabotaging behaviors
Why people do this
How it affects them
How to overcome with a therapists, without a therapists

- [5:12] What self-sabotaging behaviors are and how they prevent you from achieving your goals
- [8:33] Examples of self-sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, isolation, learned beliefs, negative self-talk, substance abuse, etc…
- [12:25] The process of internalizing … self-sabotaging behaviors can be a means to exert control in a life where you felt powerless or to punish yourself due to misplaced guilt or shame associated with your abuse.
- [26:03] Through these reframing exercises, you can recognize and adjust distorted thought patterns that contribute to your emotional distress and self-sabotaging behaviors. 
 
Listen in and learn about what self-sabotage is and examples of how you can overcome them. Learn why you self-sabotage, how they affect you, and how to overcome them. 

Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behaviors

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